Befriend Your Inner B*tch: How to Stop Being Toxic in Your Relationships and with Yourself
Are you tired of being toxic in your relationships and with yourself? You really need to read this book, which comes highly recommended by a psychotherapist.
“What a wonderful book. Higgins’ engaging style and emotional honesty will help readers feel their inner struggles are fully welcome at this party. You better get ready to dance!” — Jennifer Coles, Psychotherapist
If you have ever felt a nagging voice in your head telling you that you’re not good enough, that second-guesses everything you do, or that sabotages your relationships before they even have a chance to bloom, then this book is for you.
This is not a book to help you notice when other people are being toxic, or when someone else’s inner bitch is in the driving seat, and it tells you this with the first line. This book is all about noticing when you are being toxic – and honestly, it’s a lesson we can all use.
If you don’t like to think of yourself as being toxic, you’re not alone. Most of us don’t want to see ourselves as someone who could be that way with others, but the truth is, it’s more common than you think, and there are a lot of reasons you could be this way in certain situations.
When you have the courage and vulnerability to see what’s actually going on inside yourself, you’ll be in a position to truly create change for yourself. This book aims to help you become empowered to make the best choices for yourself and how you act, even if you’re in triggering situations.
It’s not always easy, but this book provides a useful guide to walk you through it, step by step. It is written in a very honest and straight-forward way, but also with a lot of heart and compassion. This makes it easy to understand, and easier to digest the parts that might feel a little sensitive to your ego.
The author focuses on why we shouldn’t try to silence the difficult parts of ourselves. Instead, we need to listen, learn from them, and transform them, so that we can be the best versions of ourselves. And it’s all done in a conversational tone where we feel like we’re chatting honestly with an old friend.
Each chapter is broken down in a great order to walk you through the process, starting with Turning Inwards where we learn to reflect into our inner selves on a deeper level. Higgins balances her narrative with eight reflective exercises that are both challenging and rewarding. We dig into some very vulnerable topics such as self-doubt, emotional overwhelm, and toxic patterns in relationships, but the writing is accessible, grounded and sometimes even funny to read.
In this space, you’re allowed to feel messy, flawed, and beautifully human. It’s permission to accept the darker parts of yourself, while also recognizing how you got there. There’s so much more to improving and changing who are you than just self-awareness, and she creates a bridge to help you enact actual, lasting change.
The idea of “tinted glasses” – how we filter our experiences and perceptions through stories we’ve internalized about ourselves and others – is one metaphor that strikes a particularly deep chord. It’s a straightforward but effective picture that aids in redefining how we engage with our inner story. Higgins employs these easily understood analogies throughout the book, and they remain with you for a long time after reading.
The book’s combination of heartfelt storytelling, unapologetic self-truth, and clinical insight will give you a practical and intimate guidebook for creating real change in your own life. You will never look at relationships the same.
Whether you’ve been going through a rough patch, struggling with self-worth, or just want to push past living on auto-pilot, there is something for you in Befriend Your Inner B*tch. It brings a bold, fresh approach to healing, with practical steps that you can apply instantly.
It reminds us that the path to true change sometimes involves sitting down and making friends with that inner bitch. We need to listen to that voice that’s been misunderstood all along. Once we do, we can begin to meet her needs in a way like never before.
If you’re ready to ditch self-sabotage and start relating to yourself with radical honesty, this book is waiting for you.
5 stars from me!
Available on Amazon and also in Kindle Unlimited.