Bitterness Is a Bad Look – Book Review
Bitterness Is a Bad Look: Stop the Replays, Start Your Life is a brand new release that helps you know how to let go of hurt, grudges, and bitterness you may have toward a person or situation that has happened.
I was very excited to get a review copy of this book because it intrigued me from the description and the book cover. I think we’ve all had at least one situation where we struggled to forgive a person or we held onto a situation that harmed us. For some people, letting go is easier than others, but we’ve all had some situation that just seemed so hard to move on from. But here’s a guide you didn’t know you needed to help you finally let go.
Let’s take a look at this book, why I loved it, and why you may want to read it too!
You don’t need a perfect apology. You need a plan.
That one sentence sets the tone for a book that feels like a deep breath for anyone carrying the weight of unresolved hurt.
I can honestly say, this is not just another “let it go” self-help book. It’s a how-to manual for releasing bitterness without pretending nothing happened. Most of us want to let it go, but we don’t know how. And “feel-good” advice about how it will be better for us if we just do it doesn’t help us with the action steps to get there. This book is different.
If you’ve ever found yourself mentally replaying a conversation, stewing in what you should have said, or waiting (possibly forever) for an apology that might never come, this book gets it. And more importantly, it gives you tools that actually help.
Formatting and Set Up
The book is formatted beautifully, and it begins with a table of contents that lays out everything inside. It’s separated into three main parts with 16 chapters within those parts and a final note to close out the whole book.
Each chapter is broken down further into parts. For example, chapter one has Are You Bitter or Just Honest? And Emotional Hoarding is Still Hoarding. I especially like chapter and section titles like this in self-help because it allows you to easily come back and re-read certain sections when you need to be reminded or just want to study them more.
What Makes This Book Stand Out?
Now let’s look at some of the things that make this book stand out from others in the same genre.
It’s Practical.
The Fact → Feeling → Need → Next Step framework is deceptively simple, but incredibly powerful. It’s not about stuffing your emotions down or bypassing your pain; it’s about organizing it into something you can work with. This method helps you understand what’s happening inside without getting stuck there.
It Offers Real-Life Scripts.
Forget awkward confrontation speeches. Bitterness Is a Bad Look gives you short, clear repair scripts you can actually use in real life – at work, in friendships, in family, even co-parenting situations. As a neurodivergent person, this is especially helpful for me, but I am sure anyone can benefit from it. The tone is empowering without being aggressive. It’s confident and kind at the same time.
Boundaries, but Make Them Workable.
This book gets that setting boundaries isn’t about building walls—it’s about choosing what you allow in your space. The “boundary builders” help you stop over-explaining yourself and start honoring your peace. It’s like decluttering your emotional inbox.
Let Go of Scorekeeping.
One of my favorite takeaways: “Stop tallying and start living.” This section helps you identify where you’re still keeping emotional score, and how to gently step out of that exhausting game. It’s not about giving up on fairness, but choosing freedom over fixation.
Self-Closure Is the Real Glow-Up.
Some people will never give you closure, and that’s a brutal truth. But this book shows you how to find peace anyway. The tools for self-closure are some of the most grounded, comforting, and empowering I’ve ever read. You walk away feeling like you’ve got options, no matter what the other person chooses.
Final Thoughts
Bitterness Is a Bad Look is more than a catchy title. It’s a call to reclaim your energy, your clarity, and your future. Whether you’re healing from a recent fallout or untangling years of hurt, this book offers a practical, compassionate roadmap to getting unstuck.
Use it like a workbook. Highlight the pages. Try the scripts. Sit with the steps. Because once you stop the replays, you really do start your life – and yes, start glowing.
🌟 Highly recommend for:
- People stuck in overthinking loops
- Anyone navigating tough relationships (family, friends, coworkers, exes)
- Readers who love clarity, honesty, and actionable tools
- Those tired of waiting for closure from someone else
You can get it on Amazon in paperback, Kindle and Kindle Unlimited.