Soulmate The Happiness of Being Truly Loved – Book Review
by Faustin Bouchard and Lucie Demers
How to Attract Your Soulmate, Love Deeply, and Create a Relationship That Lasts
What if finding the “perfect” spouse isn’t the key to discovering the love you’ve been seeking, but rather adopting a different perspective on love? That is the heartwarming and energizing message found in Soulmate: The Happiness of Being Truly Loved by Faustin Bouchard and Lucie Demers, a kind and profoundly perceptive manual for establishing real, enduring love.
It is immediately apparent from the first few pages that this is not another book full of relationship advice. Instead, it’s a stunning fusion of spiritual depth, emotional intelligence, practical advice, and life experience. The wisdom of real-life partnership – not the glossy, idealized version we frequently see, but the grounded, unvarnished, and immensely fulfilling experience of learning how to properly love and be loved – is offered in Soulmate, which was written by a couple who have been growing in love for 30 years.
The structure of this work is among its most potent features. Readers are gently guided through revelations by Lucie and Faustin that feel both very intimate and widely applicable. Each chapter builds on the one before it with heart and clarity, from comprehending the “two types of couples” to recognizing the five main barriers that subtly undermine love. They don’t back down from difficult realities, such irrational expectations, emotional barriers, or the ways that many couples unintentionally fall into disconnection-causing routines. However, they handle these realities with such empathy that they never make them feel burdensome. Rather, it feels enlightening.
Their message is clear: love is not a destination but a habit. The objective is to build a lasting and meaningful connection, not to find the ideal partner. The authors’ advice comes across as trustworthy, genuine, and incredibly human because they are open about their own challenges and marital growth.
Their vulnerability serves as a mirror for our own and a call to develop a closer bond with our relationships and ourselves.
Soulmate’s use of metaphor and imagery is one of its most notable features. The writers manage to make difficult emotional concepts seem approachable and memorable, whether they are using famous movies to analyze emotional dynamics or using visual language to explain internal changes. Writing about love in a way that is both poetic and useful is a unique talent, and Bouchard and Demers are masters at it.
They suggest three particularly effective mindsets for growth: moving from autopilot to conscious participation, from fear to openness, and from blame to understanding. These are not merely aspirational goals. They are based on practical tasks and skills that readers can use in their daily lives.
This book’s examination of the relationship between sexuality and emotional connection is another special gift. This unity is both necessary and invigorating in a culture that frequently separates the emotional from the physical. The writers remind us that presence is just as important to connection as enthusiasm.
This book meets you where you are, regardless of whether you’re in a relationship that feels unsure, one that’s stable but yearns for more spark, or you’re still looking for your “soulmate.” It provides clarity without condemnation, hope without delusion, and encouragement without coercion. Even its observations on the first five years of a relationship seem realistic and hopeful.
Ultimately, Soulmate’s reassuring, guiding presence is what remains most. It feels more like sitting down with two kind, knowledgeable friends who have experienced true love and wish to guide you along the same path than it does like a how-to handbook. The book teaches you how to become one, how to spot one, and how to create a relationship that changes over time, in addition to teaching you how to discover your soulmate.
“Don’t search for your soulmate – search for your light. That’s how they’ll be drawn to you.”
This book is a must-read if you think that love may bring about happiness, healing, and transformation and if you’re prepared to develop into that love.
For everyone looking for a relationship that will last, Soulmate is a practical compass, a gift for the heart, and a salve for the soul.